The Mystery of the Story Budget

For those who are just getting started in the game of blogging, you might come across a few terms that are unfamiliar to you now and then. This can be confusing at times, but well worth learning what they mean.

I use the Edit Flow plugin to organize my upcoming content and came across editting photothe term story budget and had no idea what the heck that was. After a little research, I came across this helpful little snippet that cleared things up right away. Continue reading "The Mystery of the Story Budget"

Predicting the Future

English: Entrance of Tomorrowland at Disneyland
English: Entrance of Tomorrowland at Disneyland (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Each week, we'll present you with a prompt for blogging. This week week look to the future and think about what it will be like 25-100 years in the future.

5 Things that will no longer exist in the future.

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5 Steps to Accepting Compliments Graciously

Many creative artists are uncomfortable with praise and compliments. We can be so busy judging ourselves harshly that we don't quite know what to do with positive feedback.

We almost wish people would just "come out and say it," "it" being the negative thing that they're REALLY thinking, just to prove our negative self-perception.

Instead, when we can learn how to embrace positive feedback and accept compliments graciously, we open up the door for more positive thoughts and interactions, and we actually start to BELIEVE them.

Then, when our inner critic starts up again, we can intentionally choose to believe the POSITIVE messages we've been receiving.

Here are five steps towards accepting compliments graciously.

1. Notice. Begin by noticing what you tend to say when someone gives you a compliment. Do you minimize it by saying, "Oh, it was nothing", do you argue with it by saying, "No, I don't look good, I look awful!" or do you find yourself so uncomfortable that you're at a complete loss for words?

2. Practice. You can learn to accept compliments more graciously. After noticing what you tend to do now, decide how you'd like to respond the next time you receive a compliment. Then, practice saying your new response (in front of a mirror is best) until saying it feels natural and sincere.

What to say? A warm and heartfelt, "thank you", coupled with a smile, is always appropriate and is usually enough. Be cautious of feeling the need to explain, justify, or return a compliment automatically.

3. Pause. When someone pays you a compliment, stop before you respond. This is where change happens – when we step out of autopilot and try something different. Take a deep breath and remember your wish to accept compliments more graciously.

4. Turn your attention outwards. Focus on the person who's giving you the compliment. Think about their intentions. Sometimes our inner critic tells us stories about the person being sarcastic, having some kind of ulterior motive or not truly meaning what they say. Instead, expect the best and act on the assumption that the person is sincere.

Focus on being kind and courteous to that person. If you make them feel good by accepting their compliment with genuine appreciation, they'll remember that and speak up the next time they have something positive to share with you.

Consequently, if you belittle their words by arguing, minimizing or looking as if they've just insulted you, they'll remember that as well.

5. Try it from the other side. Another way to get better at accepting compliments is to GIVE more compliments. Notice how other people receive them. This can improve your relationships greatly, because now you'll be focused more on the other person. As you're looking for positive things to compliment them on, you'll also be keeping your thoughts more positive overall, and you'll have less time for worrying and negative thinking.

© Linda Dessau, 2006.

Author's Bio:
Linda Dessau, the Self-Care Coach, helps artists enhance their creativity by addressing their unique self-care issues. Feel like your creativity is blocked? Sign-up for your complimentary copy of the popular e-course, "Roadblocks to Creativity" by visiting

3Spark: cap, match, bed

English: A stopwatch is a hand-held timepiece ...
English: A stopwatch is a hand-held timepiece designed to measure the amount of time elapsed from a particular time when activated to when the piece is deactivated. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Welcome to this week's three word free writing challenge. Remember to set your timer for twenty minutes before you begin writing.

Today's words are:

  1. cap
  2. match
  3. bed

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StorySpark: Mirical Mile

English: Mile Post, Caldon Canal. A mile post ...
English: Mile Post, Caldon Canal. A mile post on the Caldon Canal near Milton, Stoke on Trent. Erected by the Caldon Canal Society showing Etruria 4 mile, Uttoxeter 26 mile (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Today's is "Mirical Mile". Think about that for a bit, then write your story. No other guidelines today.

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ImageSpark: Remote Control

Spektrum DX7EU Remote Control
Spektrum DX7EU Remote Control (Photo credit: Lenz Grimmer)

 When most of us hear the words "remote control" we think of the thing that controls our television sets. But, there are a variety of things that can be remote controlled. Use the image to spark your imagination and write about the use of a remote control.

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BlogSpark: Resources

Tree Branch  Snip
Tree Branch Snip (Photo credit: rubyblossom.)

One of the hardest things to assemble for beginning bloggers is a good set of resources. What resources do you use for your blog research? What programs, apps, and websites do you use? Willing to share where you get your ideas? Write a blog post on the topic.

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